How can you handle the narcissistic people in your life? They're frustrating (and maybe even intimidating) to deal with. You might need to interact with some of them in social or professional settings, and you might even love one-so sometimes it just doesn't work to simply ignore them. You need to find a way of communicating effectively with narcissists, getting your point across and meeting your needs while side-stepping unproductive power struggles and senseless arguments. This book offers a host of effective strategies for dealing effectively with someone who is at the center of his or her own universe.
This book will show you how to move past the narcissist's defenses using compassionate, empathetic communication. You'll learn how narcissists view the world, how to navigate their coping styles, and why, oftentimes, it's sad and lonely being a narcissist. By learning to anticipate and avoid certain hot-button issues, you'll be able to relate to narcissists without triggering aggression. By validating some common narcissistic concerns, you'll find out how to be heard in conversation with a narcissist. Finally, you'll learn how to set limits with your narcissist and when it's time to draw the line on unacceptable behavior.
Chapter 1 Framing the Situation: Toward an Understanding of Narcissism
Chapter 2 Understanding the Anatomy of Personality: Schemas and the Brain
Chapter 3 Getting Captured: Identifying Your Personal Traps
Chapter 4 Overcoming the Obstacles: Communication Pitfalls, Snags, and Glitches
Chapter 5 Paying Attention: Facing the Most Difficult Encounters with a Narcissist
Chapter 6 Empathic Confrontation: A Winning Strategy for Interpersonal Effectiveness
Chapter 7 Seven Gifts of Communication with a Narcissist